Information for Referring Providers

Trust is at the heart of every referral, and I am honored to collaborate with you in providing specialized care for men. Brothers Counseling focuses on the unique ways males THINK, FEEL, and CHANGE. Typical theories and techniques are customized for the male ear. Individual therapy, group therapy, and uniquely, therapy for fathers and sons are available.  Sliding scale options are available, and superbills can be provided for insurance reimbursement. Under limited circumstances insurance billing is available through an affiliate.

Please reach out if you have any questions.

FOR COUPLES THERAPISTS

Brothers Counseling is an excellent complement to your couples work. If the male in your couples client needs additional support, we can coordinate your work with the couple and my work with the man to achieve greater overall success.

Practice Philosophy

Brothers Counseling is designed around the unique ways that males THINK, FEEL, and CHANGE. In practical terms this means I am open to seeing anyone who identifies as male. I am an outspoken ally for queer folk. I can also connect with men trapped in misogynistic thinking. It is trite to say, but “I will meet a man where he is.” I start from a place of believing males are also victims of toxic masculinity and our society needs men to heal from this toxicity. The goal in all my work is helping men restore their honorable manhood.

From an age perspective: I am focusing on adult and adolescent men. I am competent to treat men at all phases of life, from launching into adulthood through establishing marriage, parenthood, and career, as well as through end of life challenges. I would see a male as young as age 10, but they should be done with latency stage development. Contact me about any boys you are concerned about.

WHAT KIND OF CLIENTS MIGHT BENEFIT FROM REFERRAL?

  • The male of a client couple you are seeing that needs some additional support

  • A young man having difficulty launching into adulthood

  • A new husband and/or father struggling to feel good enough at those roles.

  • Professionals in their late 30s and 40s who feel meaning and purpose slipping through their fingers

  • Men who want to find their way out of their co-dependency with friends, careers, and intimate relationships – aka The Nice Guy Syndrome

  • Men facing the end of parenthood, marriage, career who are struggling with the loss of “Masculine Purpose”

  • Men suffering with chronic depression and the associated deep loss of meaning and purpose

  • Men impacted by core wounds and negative core beliefs. Typical here are Father Wounds – absent, inadequate, or shame-filled fathers, Mother Wounds – in adequate nurturing that supports a belief in self worth.

THEORETICAL APPROACH AND STYLE

My theoretical model is multi-layered. I think of psyche processes in the language of Object Relations Theory. Developmentally thinking, I lean heavily on Erik Erikson. Those are not particularly helpful language platforms with clients, though. I prefer the language and methods of Internal Family Systems.

I know the language of the Mythopoetic Men’s Movement and am well read in this space. I prefer to engage men across what I think of as five core dimensions – Spiritual (not religious), Physical, Emotional, Relational, and Mental. When appropriate, I will engage the language of four key virtues (archetypes) – Leadership (King), Courage (Warrior), Wisdom (Magician), Compassion (Lover).

My style is more directive than most. If a man is stuck in his story I will redirect. My years of working with men through countless circles, teaches me how to see the pain points and to help men find their way to bring that pain forward.

BIO, CREDENTIALS, AND SUPERVISION

Randy spent a 35-year career leading various healthcare organizations and raising a family.  Randy believes toxic masculinity is as much symptom as cause of personal and societal pain.  Randy has suffered from the effects of toxic masculinity himself, and has sometimes been a perpetrator of it.  Randy has been working and growing in the “men’s work” community for nearly 30 years.  In retirement, Randy is focusing his experience, compassion, and wisdom on helping men heal themselves, their families, and their communities.

Randy has spent time training for this new role through a Master’s degree in Theological Studies at Vanderbilt Divinity School and a Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Southern New Hampshire University.  In addition, Randy has and continues to engage in numerous certifications and training workshops, expanding his understanding of the ways men THINK, FEEL, and CHANGE.  The training, experience, and compassion allow Randy to offer counseling for men and boys, individually or in group sessions, lead and organize retreats and workshops for men, and support men’s organizations trying to do good work.

Credentials: Randy Cook, MPH, MTS, MACHMC, Certified NMMNG Coach, Initiated man with Illuman, Initiated Warrior with the Mankind Project, a Blessed Elder with Men’s Leadership Alliance, an initiated man with Evryman, and an initiated elder with Illuman.

Supervision: The clinical practice is operated under supervision and in affiliation with Weston Crafton Ph.D., LMFT, AAMFT.